An unfaithful partner can flip your world upside down, but that doesn’t mean it’s the end of it. Here are some ways to take action after you’ve discovered he wasn’t loyal.
Do you leave or stay?
Evaluate your partner and the memories you two have shared in the relationship. If you believe in second chances and feel that it’s still possible to reconnect, then go for it. If you have a zero tolerance policy then show him to the door.
Try couples therapy
If you have trouble communicating and need help getting out what needs to be said, then couples’ counseling might a be a good idea.
End it
So you’ve decided to work on things, but it’s been a while and you still can’t get past the heartbreak. Yes – your partner made a mistake, but not letting him hear the end of it isn’t fair either. Most importantly, by holding on to the hurt, you’re only welcoming unnecessary stress. Just let it go and let yourself be happy–not everything in this world can be saved, especially if it drives you up the wall.
Let him know
No more sitting on the sidelines while he keeps scoring. He needs to know how you feel and how deeply impacted you are by the hurt from his betrayal. Get him to listen to you until you’re sure he comprehends what you’re saying.
Don’t beg to save the relationship
Don’t do it for the kids or for him. Think about yourself. How will this impact you in the long run? Will the relationship still be full of promise and growth?
Take a break
Separate yourself from him for a bit. This will give you a chance to collect yourself and think clearly.
Check your health
Be smart and schedule a doctor’s visit to find out if he has passed on any STIs/STDs to you.
Take a vacation
If you’re allowed the chance, visit somewhere new. Experience new things and gain new perspectives on life. See that there is more to the world than heartbreak and infidelity.
Don’t take responsibility
There are lots of reasons people cheat but don’t let them blame it on you. They could’ve avoided it but chose not to. Don’t punish yourself for their decision.
Don’t let yourself go
It’s OK to lose yourself in a pint of ice cream, just don’t start eating your feelings. Stay on top of your appearance and keep your soul nourished. Take care of yourself, inside and out.
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