Every relationship has its ups and downs, and we all have to compromise a little to make them work. But if your partner consistently does the following, it might be time to walk away.
Cheating
If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, cheating should be out of the question. Many people will say infidelity is a deal-breaker. However, others will decide to stay with their partners after an affair, and, under the right circumstances, it is possible to heal the relationship. If you do decide to maintain the relationship, your partner says they will never cheat again, and they do, it’s likely that they will continue to break your trust.
Putting you down
No one has the right to make you feel badly about yourself. Whether blatant or subtle, if your partner criticizes your looks, your hair, your laugh, your intelligence, anything, they’re not worth your time.
Not supporting your dreams
In a relationship, you should be each other’s cheerleaders. When you feel discouraged, they should tell you all the things you’re doing right. If you feel like throwing in the towel, they should ask what he can do to help you reach your goals.
Controlling
You should have a life outside of your relationship, away from your partner. It is not their place to tell you who you can see, when you can see them, what to eat, or how to dress. This controlling behavior can be a warning sign of physical abuse, and should be taken seriously.
Lack of communication
You will never be able to grow together if you don’t discuss your wants and needs. You both need to feel comfortable openly expressing your feelings, good and bad, otherwise you might begin to resent each other.
Unnecessary sacrifices
Have you heard someone say they got rid of their pet because their fiancé didn’t like cats? Or quit their job, left their family, and moved across the country (or world) for someone who wouldn’t do the same for them? Compromise is a must in a relationship, but if you feel like you’re giving up everything, while your significant other is sacrificing nothing, something’s not right.
Unreliability
When your car breaks down, you need advice, or you’ve just had a bad day and need a hug, do they come to your aid? If they’re not there for you when you need someone the most, why are you with them?
Forgetting the small stuff
There’s a stereotype that men always forget anniversaries and birthdays. Whether that’s true or not, it’s not okay. It’s normal for something to slip our minds, but your man (or woman) should remember those little things that are important to you.
Self-destruction
Sometimes we fall for people who are in rough situations. Though it can be difficult, it’s important to be there for your loved ones during these times, and encourage them to seek help if necessary. However, if they are engaging in destructive behavior that is negatively affecting you, and they refuse to seek help, you might want to consider leaving. There is only so much you can do, and it is not your fault that they are not willing to help themselves.
Not caring about your friends and family
When you want to build a life with someone, you have to accept every part of them, including the people they care about. Your partner not making an effort to get to know your loved ones can cause a major strain on your relationship.
