Loving someone is a great feeling. Having that love returned to you feels even better. When you deeply love someone, they become a part of you. Do not settle for anything less. When you fall for a person who doesn’t know how to love, you might not mean anything to them. Luckily, there are ways to free yourself from this emotional trap.
You feel alone with them
You knock and knock but they just won’t let you in. They don’t want to let you in. They’ve been emotionally scarred by an ex and have been avoiding love ever since. What they don’t realize is that it wasn’t love that hurt them; it was their ex-partner. Separate yourself from them. They’re still grieving and need space to heal. It’ll also be good for you to stop wasting your energy on someone who doesn’t want nor appreciate it.
You change
The most tragic thing about loving someone who doesn’t know how to love you back is that you lose yourself along the way. You get used to their broken promises and the high hopes that always end in disappointment, and you eventually become empty of love to give. You become frustrated yet numb. You forget how to love and what it feels like to receive it. You start loving in the wrong ways—greedily, angrily—all to protect your heart. Instead of staying with someone who knows exactly how you feel but is too much of a closed book to let themselves feel again, consider what it would feel like to be with someone who can meet you at the same level. Someone who won’t drain you. You may be compatible with so many other people out there; don’t settle for the one with whom you’re anything less than happy.
You give more than you ever receive
You put in the time to get to know them but they don’t do the same for you. They don’t have anything to say during your lows or even your highs because they don’t know what drives you; they never took the time to understand you. It hurts because you’re excited to get to know them better and have put in the effort to do so, but their efforts aren’t returned. The answer is to completely remove yourself. Cut off all contact. One of the worst ways you can disrespect yourself is by staying with someone who does not show you an ounce of interest.
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