Things go wrong in relationships all the time. Sometimes it’s no one’s fault, but other times the problems could be traced back to one party or the other. To help you figure out where your relationship may have gone off the tracks, here are some things men do wrong in relationships.
I want to point out that not all men will do these things. A good man who honors his mate is most likely aware of these possible problems and corrects for them. But keep an eye out for these when things seem to be not-quite-right.
Getting too comfortable
It is true that the excitement of dating and mating is less so the kill, but instead the thrill of the chase. Once the wolf catches his deer, the pulse begins to drop, the risks are over, now it is time to feed. Men, as you probably know, are hunters.
How to fix this: Don’t get caught. Make sure he has to keep chasing you a little.
Assuming you are his
One of the great things about love is you get to be a crucial part of another person’s existence. However, sometimes men welcome you into their life, their world, but don’t do the same in return. You meet his friends but he’s not interested in yours. A woman might not see this right away and next thing she knows, her friends have moved on and she ends up rebuilding herself in her partner’s world.
How to fix it: Bring him into your world as an honored guest, but, make sure you maintain your interests and connections.
He lives for you and only you
On a lowland hiking trip my buds and I had to ford through some still water. We all emerged with a varied number of leeches stuck to us. We had to burn them off and they left tiny, bloody wounds. Oh, it was still an awesome trip FYI.
When a man loves a mate he may sometimes attach himself a bit too closely. His intentions may be the warmest and most loving, but the end result is often that the mate feels smothered. Healthy relationships burn brightly like fire, but fire needs oxygen as fuel.
What to do about it: Encourage him from day one to nurture his own interests and make sure he knows you have your own life to live and that he may be part of it, but he’s not all of it.
All these free cookies!
Nope, not talking about cookies – talking about sex. Once a man has a cookie jar, you may work together to bake some awesome cookies. But then, there is a tendency for a man to just reach into the cookie jar whenever he wants a cookie and he forgets how to bake them. I’m saying, don’t let him just get sex whenever he wants it, make him work for it or he’ll get lazy.
How to avoid this: make sure you keep your “quickie” to “making love” ratio 1:1.
Love is grand, but we all make mistakes. There is no perfect mate. If you watch for these things that men might be doing in your relationship that tend to turn bad, your honeymoon phase may not be a phase. Good luck!
