We don’t like them. We don’t want them in our lives, yet, we may have to deal with them. How do we handle them effectively so they don’t take us down?
Here are some ways that will help you get a handle:
Let them know you are on to them.
Don’t deny that you know who they are and what they are doing. You’ve got them pegged. You will not overlook their digressions.
Anticipate their moves and outsmart them.
If you know, for example, they will not support your advancement, and may, in fact, start some rumors about you. Go to the people who they will try to enlist in the rumormill, and discourage them from playing along. (After all, you will be in a better position soon, and they will want you on their side).
Go to people in the know, and let them know.
They may be pals with some of the higher ups, however, you know that they have attacked them behind their backs. Diplomatically, figure out a way to let them know. Be strategic–you don’t want to sound like a victim. Come from a team spirit, and point out what’s best for everyone concerned.
Don’t waste your time keeping up with them.
If you find yourself thinking too much about what mischief they are up to now…stop. You are taking actions to protect yourself from future harm, but enough is enough. Time to keep focused on doing a great job.
Don’t REACT, act from your strength.
Even if their underhandedness is getting to you, don’t stoop to their level. If you do, you will lose all credibility. It’s more important that you remain detached, but aware of what they are trying to pull. Remember, no one acts like they do unless they feel desperate and bad about themselves.
