BEING UNCLEAR
“I’m disappointed in you.” (without explaining why so someone can understand what you mean).
COMPARE AND DESPAIR
“He’s so much more…(fill in the blank)” Comparing your partner to someone else, without giving them any credit.
THINKING THE WORST
“You’ll NEVER be able to…(fill in the blank)” Not believe things can change.
LAYING ON GUILT
“If you had only (fill in the blank), I would be so much happier.” Deep down, we all want to please, and it’s the pit when someone tells us that’s not possible.
MAKING THEM FEEL SMALL
“I shouldn’t have expected that you could handle (fill in the blank).” It is our nature to grow and improve. When someone tells you that’s not happening, it makes you feel you will never have an impact.
