We often explore what successful people read, what they eat, their morning rituals, the kinds of people they associate with, and the list goes on. But to truly understand those who have triumphed in spite of difficulties, we need to look at what they say on a daily basis. After all, our words do create our reality.
“We”
Successful people understand that success comes quicker and lasts longer when they are able to get others to buy into their vision. When there is a “we,” collaboration is possible, creativity flows, and the dream is fueled by the combined force of people who feel valued and will make the sacrifices necessary to get the job done. As the old saying goes, “No man is an island unto himself.”
“Yes”
Your ability to say “yes” to opportunities disguised as challenges is a major distinction between those who reach the peak of their career and those who constantly struggle to achieve their goals. Saying “yes” doesn’t mean you have all the answers or that you don’t feel the fear of stepping into the unknown. Your yes is simply an indicator that you are willing to do whatever it takes to figure it out.
“How”
Strategy is at the heart of any major accomplishment. Taking the time to explore the many approaches to solving a problem, developing a new product or service, and choosing the best route is what drives results for successful people. Asking “how” provides the team an opportunity to view the process from different angles and a chance for the leader to see how they can hold themselves personally responsible. How also helps to keep the right mission in focus.
“Yet”
Failure is inevitable for everyone who dreams of accomplishing anything. It doesn’t matter if it’s a big dream like building a multi-million dollar enterprise or something small in comparison. Failure will come and for many successful people it comes fast and often. What really matters is the number of times you decide to try again, knowing that success will come; it just hasn’t happened yet.
“Please, thank you, sorry”
The absence of these little words can destroy morale and prevent progress. It doesn’t matter if you are working with volunteers or paid employees; they still want to know there is a level of respect and civility. Asking for help and ending that request with “please” is one of the ways to set the foundation for a high-performing team. Admitting when you are wrong and apologizing also sends a strong positive message. Last, and certainly not least, is expressing gratitude. Saying “thank you” isn’t just an instant form of reward and recognition for your team, it’s also about being thankful for the journey, the lessons learned, and the small accomplishments on the road to larger victories.
