Sometimes you may find that your relationship is not in a good place. It can be hard during dark times to know whether the relationship can be salvaged or not. Here are five signs that a damaged relationship can be fixed:
You Still Enjoy Spending Time Together
If you still enjoy hanging out and your significant other remains your favorite person, then the relationship may be worth fighting for. If the majority of the time spent together is filled with fighting, tears, and negativity—it might not be.
The Root Cause of the Problem Isn’t What You’re Arguing About
Sometimes stress from other areas of your life might be causing you to lash out on your partner. Whether it’s work, family, or financial issues, recognize the real issue and stop fighting about things that you’re not actually that upset about.
Your Issues Aren’t Specific to Your Relationship
“When things become challenging or frustrating or unsatisfying in a marriage, it is common to develop the fantasy that there must be something out there that’s better … But, typically, the challenges you are facing in your [relationship] are ones that will eventually surface with someone else as well…” noted Caroline Lehmann, in an interview with psychotherapist Elisabeth LaMotte.
The Fights are About Silly Things
Try to take a moment and think about what the fighting is all about. Are your complaints petty and could be easily worked through? You may want to sit down, consider couples therapy, and discuss why your feelings are so easily hurt.
You’re Both Willing to Work On It
If only one of you is willing to work on things, the resolution might not be what you want it to be. It takes two putting in the effort. Fixing things might seem impossible if one of you is trying. If you both don’t want it to end and are willing to go the extra mile.
Disclaimer: This article is in part the opinion of the author.
