There are some guys who just aren’t worth it. And when you are at the point in your life/relationship when marriage is on the table … avoid guys that display these five signs at all costs:
He makes objectifying comments
Women sometimes justify rude or ignorant behavior from their boyfriends because they can be sweet and vulnerable in private. But if he puts on a toxically masculine act to impress his friends or discusses other women in a negative light, the person he is with you is not the person he presents to the rest of the world.
He doesn’t have any goals
Men without drive are not worth your time. Actively pursuing something—whether it’s a passion or a job—teaches you accountability and focus. If your guy is unmotivated, not only will you have trouble relying on him, but you will also find it difficult to talk to him about his life.
Your friends and family don’t approve
When we get in a serious relationship, our loyalties and priorities tend to shift. We want to fight for our significant other when it comes to issues between him and our families and friends, and we want to spend more time with him than we do with other loved ones. That is totally normal. But it is important to keep in mind that our friends’ and family’s opinions are valid, especially when considering marriage. If he doesn’t get the seal of approval from them, it might be a good idea to reconsider.
He struggles to communicate with you
A major part of a healthy relationship is healthy communication. You need to know where the other person is at emotionally, physically and mentally in order to fulfill each other’s needs. If he doesn’t properly communicate with you, no matter how open you are with him, you guys won’t be on the same page. Even worse, he might take advantage of your openness for his personal gain and you will end up in a completely unequal relationship.
He drags you down
It’s actually not very hard to fall for somebody who sees the world in a negative light. You convince yourself that there is just one thing that weighs heavily on him and once that weight is lifted, he will be happy. Also, you get validation from being the light of his otherwise dark life. But newsflash: you cannot fix him! His constant negativity is just a drain on your life, and eventually he will drag you down with him.
