Have you been dating someone, and you can’t tell if he’s actually into you? Look for these major red flags:
He doesn’t talk about your complete interests
He should want to hear about your goals and aspirations. Even if he’s not necessarily ready to commit to being there for the long haul, asking about your interests shows that he likes you. If he doesn’t do that, he’s not worth your time.
You always text first
Do you go days or weeks between dates, and only hear from him late at night or when you initiate the conversation? If he only talks to you when it’s convenient for him, he’s obviously not that serious about you. Don’t make it easy for him by always being the first to text or suggest a date. Make him do some of the work. Afterall, for a relationship to last, both people have to be willing to put in the effort.
He hates PDA
It is true that not everyone likes to show their affection in public, especially in the beginning of a relationship, but watch out if he never tries to hold your hand or kiss you in front of other people. Guys like this will probably also say that they “don’t like labels,” when you ask if he considers you his girlfriend.
You’re not the only girl he’s seeing
There’s nothing wrong with casually dating more than one person at a time (as long you do it safely and you haven’t agreed to be exclusive with someone). It can become a problem for you, though, if the guy you like is seeing other people, but you are only interested in dating him. If he openly talks about dating other girls with no regard for your feelings, he probably doesn’t see your relationship going anywhere, and it’s better to let go of him now.
He forgets the small stuff
Have you told him the same story three times, and he still doesn’t remember? Or, did he know your birthday was coming up, but he didn’t even bother sending you a “happy birthday” text? You’re clearly not on his priority list, so he shouldn’t be on yours.
He doesn’t like to plan at all
Things are always spontaneous. He calls when he feels like and there is no plan in advance. He seems to have a commitment problem.
