Often enough, people put up with their family or friends because they think they have to. As a result, they end up hurting because they didn’t receive an equal amount of love (or didn’t receive love at all). Not receiving love from someone who’s a big part of your life can take its toll on you–here’s how you’ll know.
The stress is overwhelming
Your anxiety has increased, and you find that you worry all the time. The stress from your family drama has made it’s way into your work, school and/or other important aspects of your life, and your peace of mind is paying for it.
You avoid being around them
You find it hard to be around your family or friend(s) because some sort of conflict always seems to arrive and it often remains unsolved. You’d rather spend time away from the negativity.
The gossip is overbearing
There’s always that one person in the family who can’t seem to keep your name out of their mouth. They soon gather up a toxic little army of other family members, and before you know it you’re a victim of their judgements. You find that you’re constantly trying to prove yourself.
Their teasing is hurtful
A little bit of teasing could be fun but it becomes inappropriate when the person being poked fun at feels uncomfortable. Being teased over and over again, especially about one specific thing can quickly become unbearable. Your insecurities arise and you want nothing but to hide in your room all day, where you’re safe from those who only make you feel bad about yourself.
You have trouble getting close to others
Due to all of the toxic behavior taking place in your household, you find it hard to interact with others outside of home. You find that it’s hard to let people in and you often build walls to create space between yourself and others.
You can’t trust reality
You find it hard to take a firm grasp on reality, which can happen for those who’ve grown up in a dysfunctional home. Perhaps you’re always being punished for something your parents blew way out of proportion. Their experience of a moment drastically differs from what you had experienced, making it difficult for you to be in touch with and trust your emotions.
Their addiction has worsened
Whether it’s a friend, family member or partner, it’s always hard to be around a loved one with a substance addiction. You find it harder and harder to be around them because they prefer drugs, alcohol or whatever the substance is, over spending time with you–ultimately destroying the relationship.
They never want to hang out
You’re bothered by the fact that someone who you thought of as a friend never wants to hang out. They’re always “busy.” Friends always make time for each other, and though you might want to spend time with them, they never seem interested.
They pop up when it’s convenient
They come rolling around, friendly and smiling, but only because they need something from you. A good friend should always be there, not only when it’s best for them.
They’re jealous of you
Though they might be present in your moment of success, they’re not actually there for you. Instead of celebrating your moment of happiness with you, they burn with envy.
