Are you a control freak?

You’re at the cinema to watch a movie you’ve been dying to see. When it’s your turn to buy tickets, the salesperson tells you the movie has been canceled today. Do you:

Make the salesperson feel bad and ask to speak to a manager immediately so you can express your anger.

Ask for comp tickets so when you come back, you watch the movie for free.

Just walk away, even though you are upset because you came a long way for nothing.

Correct!

Wrong!

In a team meeting, your boss gives away one of your important projects to another colleague, saying he thinks you have too much on your plate. Do you:

Try to convince him during the meeting that the project belongs to you.

Ask to speak to your boss one-on-one; give him a timeline and a list of your priorities, proving how you can accomplish the project successfully.

Let him give the project away to someone else on your team, even though you are secretly seething.

Correct!

Wrong!

You are going on a ski trip with three other couples. One woman suggests a hotel not to your liking. Do you:

Tell her that you are a travel expert and will make the arrangements for the group.

Ask her if you can help plan the trip and then go over ideas with her.

Let her plan the trip even though you’re not happy with her choices.

Correct!

Wrong!

You entertaining a large group for Thanksgiving, when your sister-in-law offers to help set the table. You could use the help but the table is your favorite part! Do you:

Tell her: “No thank you, please go relax—I have everything under control.”

Agree, and then help her with the table arrangements.

Agree, and let her set the table to her style even though it’s not the way you wanted.

Correct!

Wrong!

Your friends send a group email invite for a shopping trip next weekend. Do you:

Respond yes, and then send a list of shops that you’ve researched and suggest they follow.

Respond yes, and ask what the plan of attack is because you want to add a store or two.

Respond yes, and go wherever they suggest, even though you don’t like most of the shops.

Correct!

Wrong!

You’re giving a time-sensitive team presentation to a client, and the person in charge of running the slideshow is moving a little slow. Do you:

Jump in and take over the mouse so you can use the shortcuts that you know even though it’s not your job.

Quietly suggest the shortcuts to the person running the slideshow, which will keep the presentation on target.

Let the show go on too long even though it will hurt the team.

Correct!

Wrong!

Your birthday is coming up soon, and there is a restaurant you want to try, but your partner wants to surprise you. Do you:

Hint heavily and then get upset when your partner takes you on a camping trip.

Ask when your partner's plans are scheduled for, that way you can fit in lunch with friends at the restaurant.

Let your partner do all the planning even if it’s not what you want, and smile.

Correct!

Wrong!