Relationships are built on trust. So when that has been betrayed, it can be hard to put your faith in someone else. However, you will eventually need to face your fears in order to move on and build a healthy bond with your next partner.
Reflect
Take as much time as you need to explore the reasons you distrust other people (if this is a recurring theme in your life, it may be best to consult a counselor or therapist if you haven’t yet). It’s difficult to explore things that have been hurtful, but in the end it will make you stronger.
When you’re ready to move into a new relationship, know it will have its challenges, but don’t try to suppress any feelings that may come up.
Think from their perspective
Before you get worked up about something they did, consider their perspective first. After being lied to in one relationship, you can easily become more sensitive and vulnerable. So be sure to let the person explain their side when you bring up your concerns, giving them a benefit of the doubt. This will be tough at first, but it’s something you’ll have to do in order to move past your trust issues.
Communicate your feelings
When you’re starting a new relationship, let your new partner know how you feel. Being up front makes for a more honest relationship. If they do something to upset you, share how you feel. Don’t expect to gain any ground if you’re not up front and honest.
Be aware
Be careful not to make the same mistake again. You may find yourself dating the same type of person who betrayed you. Be wary of behavioral patterns–do they act the same way your ex did? More importantly, if you find yourself giving that person a second chance, be extra cautious. This time around, they should respect your concerns. If they’re still acting the same way, say goodbye for good.
