There are common relationship myths that exist to restore hope, but most of them are actually detrimental to your love life. Here are six that are steering you in the wrong way when it comes to love, and could even be to blame for your unlucky romantic past.
Couples who are in love don’t fight
Fighting is a part of life, and it is most definitely a part of every relationship. Excessive arguing is probably a sign of a toxic relationship, but being able to confront your partner at the risk of having a fight is imperative. You don’t want to bottle anything up, because this will cause a huge blowout later.
If it’s “meant to be,” fate will do its job
This concept is dangerous because it implies that if you’re truly right for each other, things will simply fall into place. Relationships take effort, and you can’t rely on the powers of the universe to do the work for you.
Huge commitments solve everything
There is a common belief that if your relationship is in trouble you should take a huge leap, such as having a kid or moving in together. This is not only untrue, but it will also more likely lead to a breakup than a romantic revelation.
You have to alter your appearance to find love
Accepting that you have to give yourself a makeover in order to attract a partner will only lower your self-confidence. Meeting the right person has nothing to do with your looks, for the ideal relationship should exist outside of the superficial.
You’re looking for the one
You have to drop the idea of “the one” because it can be discouraging and place pressure on your relationship. Every person makes sacrifices and accommodations for the sake of their partner. Believing that there’s one perfect person out there for you may cause you to be too picky, too lazy or too idealistic about relationship dynamics.
True love is easy
Nothing important should ever come easy, and this includes relationships. Sometimes you have to put yourself first, and other times your partner first and this is never a simple task. Just because a great relationship feels comfortable doesn’t mean that it is effortless.
Sources:
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/7-hollywood-couples-myths-relationship-romance-need-ignoring-couples-counsellor-relate-a7525556.html
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201508/10-common-relationship-myths-and-why-theyre-all-wrong
