Childhood neglect by definition is a form of child abuse. It consists of a deficit in meeting a child's basic needs – including adequate health care, supervision, clothing, nutrition and housing as well as physical, emotional, social, educational and safety needs. Emotional neglect is a parent's failure to notice, attend…
Vanessa Loder
Women’s Leadership Expert, Renowned Speaker and Founder of createworkyoulove.co
Vanessa Loder is a women’s leadership expert, renowned speaker and the founder of the Career Program createworkyoulove.co. She has been featured in Fast Company, Forbes, Women’s Health and Glamour Magazine. Her Tedx talk “How To Lean In Without Burning Out” has over 100,000 views.
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Sometimes, the people who come across as extremely confident or who make you feel small are actually incredibly insecure. While they may seem important and put together on the outside, this is a false veneer covering some deep wounds on the inside. Here are five ways insecure people try to…
There’s an expression that you get to choose your friends, but not your family members. Whether it’s a crude uncle, narcissistic stepmother or the black sheep who always gets in trouble, you don’t need to look far in anyone’s immediate family to find some drama. Here’s how to deal with…
You know that feeling when your alarm goes off, and you dread getting up, wishing you could hit the snooze button for the rest of the day? If you wake up groggy and feel like you’re walking in molasses for the first few hours of your day, it can put…
When you value and respect yourself, other people naturally follow suit and are respectful of you too. Self-respecting women don’t put up with being treated inappropriately, they set healthy, firm boundaries and they take care of their needs. Here are five surprising things secure women value. Alone time If you…
There’s an expression: “If you think you’re enlightened, spend a week with your family.” Our families and the people we love most may, at times, bring out the worst in us. There are a lot of old patterns, stories and conditioning from our childhood that show up when we’re with…
Research has shown that couples who have lasting relationships behave a certain way. They resolve conflict with respect and humor, and they have many more positive interactions than negative ones. Here are five things you can do to make your relationship last. Mutual respect Showing consideration for your partner and…
"What would you like for dinner?" Whatever you’re having. "Where should we go on vacation?" I guess we can go to your favorite beach (again). These might sound like small situations, but over time, these compromises can add up. If you’re constantly giving up your needs in place of your…
It feels bad to learn that someone has been gossiping about you. Here are five things you can do to shut down people who talk behind your back. Direct question Go straight to the heart of the issue. “I’ve heard you've been saying some things about me and I was…
Don’t Shine Too Bright Chances are, someone from your childhood scolded you in a moment when you were letting your light shine. This leads to a fear that if you let your light shine too brightly, you’ll be shamed. Success and embodying your true potential will make you stand out,…
There’s an expression that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. One way to get more of anything in life (happiness, money, a sense of peace and calm) is to surround yourself with people who already have that thing you desire and to…
After coaching thousands of women and working with successful female leaders at Fortune 500 companies, a common theme has emerged; women have a hard time saying “no” and setting boundaries without feeling guilty. Women are naturally community-minded, and most were conditioned as children to please others, so it can feel…
Robin Sharma once said; “The mind is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master.” Our minds are capable of great things, and when left unchecked, they can drive us bananas! Here are seven ways to feel more calm and at ease: Meditation Practicing meditation is one of the best ways…
It’s human nature to enjoy getting attention from others. But sometimes, this attention escalates into obsessive behavior that is at best a nuisance, and at worst a threat to your safety. Many women may allow obsessive behavior to escalate because we enjoy feeling flattered, and have a hard time saying…
